The words of another person telling us we are not good enough or that we are unworthy can cause major setbacks in our lives. The verbal abuse of others erodes our confidence in our worth and abilities to succeed. Hearing "I am not enough" from others can instill a sense of fear that no matter what we do, it will never be enough, translating to a state of unworthiness.
How then can we overcome the songs we play in our heads over and over, listening to the negative thoughts from others that we are not enough, and the constant striving to prove we are worthy? If we listen to those songs long enough, we begin singing them to ourselves, and the person who originally said them to us is no longer even in the story. If not dealt with, these thoughts and fears can paralyze us, making us procrastinators, or they can set us up for unhealthy striving for a sense of perfectionism to prove our worth.
Regardless of the outcome, each holds us back from realizing our purpose and finding a sense of peace and contentment in our lives. The other possibility is that we may choose to place blame on the person who said those words to us and thus remain in a victim mindset which is a very stuck place to be.
What then can we do to face our fears? 🌟
Turn to God's Word: God's word assures us that in Him, we are made perfect. His strength, light, and hope are ours if we choose to believe in Him. He will light a path for us and help us out of the rut we may find ourselves in.
Seek Support: We can choose to admit to ourselves that we need the encouragement and support of a family member, friend, or support group. Discussing our fears with them, while keeping an open mind to their experiences or guidance, can be incredibly helpful.
Acknowledge Fear: Accept that fear is part of our humanity, but it is not true—it is a liar. Fear wants to keep us down in self-pity, inaction, and blame, rendering us victims of our circumstances. Being willing to stand up, choose to change, and learn new ways to navigate our fears is a priceless gift we can give ourselves. It requires laying down our pride and accepting our limits.
If we are willing to begin the steps outlined above, and take one small, tiny step at a time, progress will take place. We will let go of the fear that holds us back and embrace the hope that can lead us out of that dark place. In our imperfection and small steps, we become stronger each day. We will learn not to listen to False Evidence Appear Real and we will choose to Face Everything and Rise! 💪✨
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