How Can You Consider Widening the Circle?
- Cindy
- 14 minutes ago
- 2 min read
I remember a time from my grade school years. As I recall, I was in third grade when I transferred to a new elementary school. The adjustment was pretty big—a larger school, more children—and I was quite shy. I remember standing on the playground, close to the last one picked for a team. This is a memory I’ve never forgotten. Who wants to be picked close to last, or worse yet, the very last picked?
What I didn’t realize then was that Jesus was often not chosen despite being a profound presence in the world. He loved and showed compassion for the least of these. Many people want to be part of the "cool kids," longing to belong to a clique. Even as adults, some have a deep desire to be part of what the secular world defines as an esteemed group.
Since those childhood days, I’ve chosen to shy away from being in the crowd of the cool kids, so to speak—those who are tight-knit, ultra-competitive, and find their purpose in making others feel small to seem larger. These groups don’t widen the circle; they ostracize and keep the circle tight, fearing that someone might overshadow them. It’s really sad when you think about it—making others feel small to elevate themselves.
This happens in schools, workplaces, volunteer settings, sports, hobbies—anywhere humans exist. The cool kids, in their closed-off minds, miss out on different perspectives, diverse skill sets, and new experiences. Their fear of being overshadowed and their need to maintain control keep them from embracing what others bring to the table.
So, this article is a call to everyone:
How can you widen the circle instead of leaving others feeling left out?
Ways to Widen the Circle
Be welcoming and inviting to all. An open and friendly demeanor goes a long way.
Notice body language. If someone seems uncomfortable, take the step to welcome them. Extend a hand, a smile, or a simple gesture of inclusion.
Listen deeply. Sometimes people feel invisible simply because no one truly hears them. Take time to listen without rushing to respond.
Extend invitations. Ask someone to sit with you, join an activity, or simply share a conversation. Small gestures make a big impact.
When we make a conscious effort to widen the circle, we create a world where more people feel seen, valued, and included. Imagine how much richer our experiences can be when we welcome others instead of shutting them out.
However, we must also recognize that we can only do our part. How someone responds to kindness, inclusion, and a widened circle is ultimately up to them. Don’t take their lack of response personally.
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Grace to you,
Cindy